We got my mom moved in to the assisted living facility. It was a rough go at first. She did not really understand what was happening until we got there and then she zeroed in and was very angry- mostly at me. She may have dementia but she knows that if someone is going to get something done in this family - it will be me. My brother was with us. Since his blood pressure rarely goes into triple digits, he was able to calm her.
After a nap, she was in a better humor.
She did not sleep much the first night. They said she was up walking around from about 12:30 on. We ate breakfast and lunch with her. My dad had dinner with her. It is kind of up and down - She ate well at all meals. She kept herself busy by cleaning off the patio. They gave her a broom and she swept.
There is another lady there who is 95 and was a good friend of my mom's sister. She said she would try to look after my mom and help get her settled. That was very nice.
She comments often about how nice the place is and how pretty every thing is- I think that is a good sign. We will just have to see if she can settle in to a routine that works for her and the staff.- One day at a time.
One day at a time indeed but a big day is out of the way...
ReplyDeleteMy mother was very angry also, but there was no other option.
ReplyDeleteIt is not easy but you've done the right thing for your mom. Anger is a normal reaction. Hopefully she'll adapt soon and settle down.
ReplyDeleteChange is SO difficult and the older we get the harder it is. My mother is still angry that she can no longer live in HER house, but also has more social contact in her new environment. Just difficult to reach old age without a plan...we have learned many lessons.
ReplyDeleteStay strong and know that despite your Mom's initial reaction, she will adjust. Time will surely help.
ReplyDeleteNo matter how angry she gets, just remember that you are working for her best interests, and deep down she knows it also.
ReplyDeleteI can't help but think that once she sees that she's not alone, she may adjust better. Hopefully she'll find a friend there that will make her feel more comfortable.
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